In part one of this video series, Dating & Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert, Lori Pinkerton counseled one of her real clients: an incredible businesswoman named Deborah, 59, who’s been single for the past 6 years while focusing solely on her career. Since she’s ready to begin dating again, Lori helped her establish a “dating strategy” and got her in the habit of acting like a single woman. How Do I Start Dating After Taking 6 Years Off? (1 Of 3) VIDEO

In part two, Lori helped Deborah with her significant trust issues. She’s been burned in past relationships and some part of her was worried that dating just wasn’t worth it anymore. Lori helped her to see that these trust issues may be with herself. How Do I Date When I Have Serious Trust Issues? (2 Of 3) VIDEO

In this video, Deborah wonders what concrete steps she can take now to get into the dating scene. She says she has “no clue where to start.” Lori prescribes a very specific week-by-week strategy for Deborah to follow, which includes setting aside time for her love life daily, signing up for an online dating site and more.

Watch the video above to get all of Lori’s tips!

In part one of this video series, Dating & Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert, Lori Pinkerton counseled one of her real clients: an incredible businesswoman named Deborah, 59, who’s been single for the past 6 years while focusing solely on her career. Since she’s ready to begin dating again, Lori helped her establish a “dating strategy” and got her in the habit of acting like a single woman. How Do I Start Dating After Taking 6 Years Off? (1 Of 3) VIDEO

In this video, Lori helps Deborah with her significant trust issues. She’s been burned in past relationships and some part of her is worried that dating just isn’t worth it anymore. Deborah explains why her two long-term relationships in her life have given her these feelings, while Lori helps her to see that these trust issues may be with herself.

The only way Deborah is going to resolve these trust issues is to get out in the dating scene and gain new evidence. See what else Lori prescribes for her in the video above.

Do you find yourself at a point in your life where you’ve accomplished all of your career goals and aspirations, and can finally focus your attention on love? Are you scared or confused about how to make that transition and what you bring to the table? Celebrities Who Married In Their 40s

In part one of this video series, Dating & Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert, Lori Pinkerton counsels one of her real clients: an incredible businesswoman named Deborah, 59, who’s been struggling with this exact problem. She’s been single for the past 6 years while focusing solely on her career. Now that she’s ready to begin dating, she’s nervous that she won’t be any good at it and fears she doesn’t have the feminine qualities to attract a man. Deborah explains that she feels an underlying sadness and asks for Lori’s help.

Lori’s advice in this part includes establishing a “dating strategy” much like a business strategy, and also getting in the habit of being a single woman. Watch the video above for more. Tips For Online Dating After 40, or Over 50, 60 and Beyond

In part one of this video series, we met Rebecca, a 41-year-old woman who is looking to get back in the dating scene after taking 17 years off to focus on raising her daughter. She shared her struggles with getting back into dating and admitted that she would like to get married in the next four years.

In part two, Dating & Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert Lori Pinkerton helped Rebecca find out ways she could tell if a man is relationship material or not. Now that she knows the difference between good guys to date and ones she should avoid, it’s time for Rebecca to get out there and start her search for love.

In this video, Lori offers her tips on where to go to meet good, relationship material men. No, they’re not all hiding out somewhere – you just need to know where to look!

Watch the other videos in this series:

How Do I Start Dating Again After A 17 Year Break? (1 of 3)
How Can I Tell If A Guy Is Relationship Material? (2 of 3)

In part one of this video series, we met Rebecca, a 41-year-old woman who is looking to get back in the dating scene after taking 17 years off to focus on raising her daughter. She shared her struggles with getting back into dating and admitted that she would like to get married in the next four years. How Do I Start Dating Again After 17 Years? (1 of 3) VIDEO

In this video, Dating & Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert Lori Pinkerton helps Rebecca find out ways she can tell if a man is relationship material or not. Rebecca says she’s meeting and attracting men, but they turn out to be not right for her and she wonders what she’s doing wrong.

Watch the video above to see Lori explain how Rebecca can change her dating strategy to find more eligible partners.

Stay tuned for part 3: Where Do I Meet Great Men?

Getting back into the dating scene can feel a little intimidating, especially if you haven’t even tried seeing someone for almost 20 years! So, what can you do to get back in the game confidently? How Do I Start Dating Again After A Long Break? VIDEO

In this video, Dating & Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert Lori Pinkerton helps Rebecca, a 41-year-old woman who hasn’t dated for the past 17 years. Rebecca shares her struggles with getting back into the dating world and why she decided to not look for someone in the past. She admits that she would like to get married in the next four years.

Lori gets Rebecca to open up about what she wants in a partner and what steps she can take to get herself out there. Watch the video to see part one of their session.

Watch part 2 of this series: How Can I Tell If A Guy Is Relationship Material?

Have you ever had this conversation with a group of your girlfriends at a bar, “OMG, check him out, he’s damn cute. I know he’s been checking us out all night. Why doesn’t he come over and say ‘Hi’?” Well, I’m about to shed some light on why that cute guy doesn’t dare approach you. Once this secret is revealed, you will better know how to position yourself and act like a magnet to any guy anywhere anytime.

That cute guy will never, and I mean never, approach a table full of women and talk to just one. He believes that the odds of success are so stacked against him that he is destined to fail. The thought of being turned down or ignored is just too big of a personal risk. Unless he is drunk, and then who wants to talk to him anyways, almost no decent guy will ever take this kind of risk. He can envision the rejection therefore he won’t risk it. It’s like asking a girl to dance and she says “NO” but her response is secretly being broadcast on the bar’s own stereo system. Or like the DJ turns off the music to play her rejection response to all the patrons. Imagine how embarrassing and deflating that is to a guy. Of course, this is an exaggeration of what actually happens but this is what guys think.

If you want that cute guy to introduce himself to you, you have to give him an opportunity to see himself as successful. He will be looking for an opportunity to separate you from your ‘herd’ of friends. Therefore, once you have made eye contact with him I suggest that you slide to another part of the bar, to order a ‘phantom’ drink or appetizer. If you have been making eye contact all evening long, he will jump on the opportunity to speak to you while you’re alone. If he doesn’t get the hint make sure you take the initiative to say, “Hi” just in case he still doesn’t get that you’re interested.

Once you two spark a conversation, smile and reassure him that he is in the right place. This means having eye contact and acting interested. I can’t tell you how many women want a guy to approach them and then act hard to get; this is confusing. Make your intentions clear without appearing like a needy chick who just wants to get laid.

Usually this is not the time to have an in-depth conversation, in front of your leering girlfriends, loud music and lots of distractions. Typically this makes everyone on edge. Don’t share your whole life or even who you are there with, at this point. Now is the time to get him interested and wanting to know more about you, hence a date. Leaving a little to the imagination can go a LONG WAY. Tell him that you would love to chat with him when you can give him your FULL ATTENTION. Ask him to call/text or email you in a few days or you can always ask for his number if that is more comfortable for you.

However, don’t miss the opportunity if he acts as though he wants to be apart of the group and then by all means invite him over. If you bring him over make sure you walk with him and introduce him to everyone at the table. Remember the way you tell him that you are a woman of quality is to immediately show him with your actions. Now is the time to make sure he feels included, respected and comfortable. Make him feel comfortable around your friends or girlfriends, and make sure he’s included in the group’s conversations. This will put him at ease and he’ll see that you are definitely interested in getting to know him more. After you have introduced him treat him like an old friend who you have not seen in a long time. This means you are excited to see him and you can’t wait to hear what he has been up to lately.

Remember that being single is supposed to be about having FUN. Being out with your friends doesn’t mean you can’t be looking to meet and make new friends. You never know where or when that someone new will come into your life and what their role will be in the future.

I can’t wait to find out how this works for you. Feel free to contact me on Facebook

-Lori Pinkerton

Dating And Relationship Expert

While answering questions on my Facebook posts this week, a woman Amber commented, “My children need a father. I don’t want to date another guy, I need a husband!” All I could say is I GET IT! I completely agree that obtaining a love connection is the game changer but dating specifically for a husband is absolutely a turn off. The only caveat is if you’re on a dating site that’s strictly designed for marriage.

Amber’s comment peaked my curiosity. Based on the amount of comments it generated, it appears most single women date marriage in mind. The problem, it’s not working!
Many of my past and current male clients have insinuated that many of the women that they date are looking for husbands only. They feel rushed through the dating process like a “Jiffy Lube” oil change and when they attempt to pump the breaks and slow down this seemingly out of control rollercoaster, they are seen as “noncommittal.” They think that women are only looking for one thing…Marriage! It appears by the comments they’re not wrong.

I know why. I see it time and time again, women communicate deeper and excel at the complexities of a relationship. All relationships. What woman doesn’t know more about you within the first 12 hours of meeting you than any man in a months time?

Women love to love. We love to get in there and figure you out, share our thoughts, opinions and emotions. It’s our nature. Therefore, we have a tendency to sometimes rush through the preliminaries in an effort to get to the finish line where all our natural abilities shine.

Women can sometimes be over eager to show a man their true worth, their best stuff! Many times this approach is implemented unconsciously. Women just want to put their best foot forward as soon as possible. Cut out the crap and get to the good stuff ASAP.
Do what we do best!

Unfortunately, sometimes the world and men in particular see our gifts as misguided at best. We look clingy or needy instead of skilled and giving.
So how do we get to the good stuff right away and not look like a class 5 clinger?

Creating a mindset that allows for fun and freedom.

Dating should always start with a way to enjoy people and get to know yourself, your preferences and enjoy the company of a man. In order to have successful dating experiences, dating should be viewed as an opportunity to be whatever and whoever you want for an hour or two.
If you’re viewing dating as drudgery or worse yet, husband auditions, you will be continually disappointed. Focus on having a great time and you won’t go wrong. Dating is a treat that’s best when enjoyed by two.

Here we are, and it’s a week before Christmas. You and your companion attend the annual Christmas party, and they got too drunk, or made a pass at the buxom blonde. It disturbed you and you have a roaring shouting match in front of the neighbor’s house at 2 a.m. At that moment, you are feeling absolutely, “I’m done”.

The holidays are continuing without you and them together and the season is not so cheery anymore. You are lonely, the joy and thrill of spending time together has left and then there is the hand knitted sweater still left under the tree. It is really a bummer. Most of all, you cannot figure out how to fix it.

The weird period ensues and then every time you encounter each other you are feeling anger, bewilderment, or abject disgust. Friends are getting pretty tired of the petty assignment of blame over lunch and the sad replays of the event. You become sick of eating fast food alone, and sitting at home looking at sit-com re-runs. You begin to avoid social events because someone is going to ask about your ex and there is no good way to explain the break-up, or if it will get better. The days of the nasty text messages and the hang-up calls become fewer and fewer.

The relationship begins to show up in your emotional rearview mirror, and somehow you begin to miss the person just a little too much. You begin to realize that the person you miss was the person you wanted in your life and that person matters. But as to how to get back to that place, seems to be a mystery. After all, it is still hard to apologize and even harder to find an opportunity or a place to do it. It can hurt.

There is one principle in relationships that is universal. When they go bad, they can become good again. Sure it takes work and perseverance, but it can be repaired. For the most part, it begins with a heartfelt conversation about what went wrong. That should take place as soon as possible. There is some credence about not, “letting the sun go down on anger”. Beginning an earnest conversation about what has occurred is a good way to air pent-up feelings, make amends, and get on to the business of fixing the relationship. It can start with another “first date” opportunity. A first date can be the make or break in repairing a relationship. Ask for a first date, and then go about the business of making it special as you would make a first date. Yes, that does means flowers, doors being opened, getting the hair and mani/pedi done, and going to a special restaurant or event that has not been frequented in some time. Make it a new opportunity, and mean it.

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Only the best,
Lori Pinkerton

P.S. I know reaching out for help can sometimes be a bit nerve-racking and it’s hard to finally make time for yourself. It’s your time… You CAN do this and you DESERVE it! I promise that it will be the best thing you have ever done for
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